Be friendly. Say hi to her and use her name to show that you’re thinking about her. Make an effort in a group setting. Ask how her day is going or give her a light compliment. Pay just a little bit of attention to her. Wave to her if she walks past you in the halls or sits behind you in class. Remember that you don’t have to come on too strong to get her attention. In fact, playing hard to get a little bit will catch her eye even more.
If you’re in a group setting, pay attention to her, but don’t monopolize her time. Make her want to flirt with you, too, instead of just having her wait for you to come her way.
She may completely ignore you or pay a lot of attention to you in a group setting She may smile or blush when you catch her eye Her friends may whisper or giggle as they walk by you You just get a good, flirtatious feeling whenever the two of you talk Other people have teased you two about liking each other She always seems to be looking for excuses to talk to you Check how often she touches you and see if she makes a stupid excuse for it. This doesn’t mean that if she touches you once or twice that she likes you.
You don’t have to wait around too long for the perfect opportunity to present itself. Girls in middle school can be pretty fickle, so if you feel like you have a pretty good opportunity to ask her out, go for it instead of waiting for the perfect one.
Go to a school dance that’s coming up Go to see a movie that’s coming out Go to a concert Go to the mall together Let you walk her home after school Go to a birthday party together
Pick a time when she’s not likely to be stressed out or sad and check that she seems like she’s in a good mood when you approach her.
You don’t have to act arrogant. Just act like you know you’re a cool guy and that any girl would have a great time dating you. Make sure that you don’t end up acting a little bit too different from your everyday self.
If it’s really obvious that you’re going to ask her out and you’re just kind of looking at the floor and kicking imaginary dust balls, then it’s time to spit it out.
Make eye contact when you ask her instead of looking away or at the floor. She’ll be impressed with your confidence. [5] X Research source
If she doesn’t want to go out with you, don’t despair. [6] X Research source Thank her for talking to you and make a graceful exit. Don’t be mean to her, kick your locker, or come off looking like a wimp. Remember that you want her to think highly of you even if she doesn’t want to be your girlfriend. And don’t ever forget that there are plenty of fish in the sea – especially in middle school!
The vibe at the dance is guaranteed to be a bit more romantic, say, than the vibe in your school cafeteria during lunch, so if you ask her out at the dance, there’s a better chance she’ll have romance on her mind. The downside: it may be next to impossible to get her away from her friends.
Tell her to get back to you via note. Whatever happens, there’s nothing to be nervous about because she won’t have to be there to see your reaction!
If you really want a trusted friend to ask her out for you, then you may want to rehearse what he’s going to say. Yeah, this will feel ridiculous, but you’ll be grateful that you’ve prepped your friend for the big move!
