“How can I free myself from financial struggles?” “What areas do I need to work on to bring more love into my life?” “Where are there opportunities to help further my career?"[1] X Research source
Remember the reason you’re asking help from tarot cards is because there’s no easy solution to your question or concern.
Don’t ask “Should I travel through Europe for three months?” This question shifts responsibility for a life decision off yourself and onto the cards. Ask “How will it affect my loved ones if I decide to travel through Europe for three months?” This question allows the cards to give you guidance without shifting responsibility. [2] X Research source
Let’s say you’re thinking about a career change. Ask yourself how a change in employment might affect people like a roommate or family members. Don’t forget about your pets! If you’re trying to decide on travel plans, be mindful about how they’ll handle your absence. [3] X Research source
Maybe you’re struggling to know whether you should send an aging parent to an assisted living home or not. Ask “What are the benefits of leaving my Mother at home?” or “What are the drawbacks to leaving my Mother at home?” Maybe you want to know whether a difficult relationship should end. Ask “What am I getting out of staying in this relationship?” or “How is this relationship hurting me?”
Concerning your body image, ask “How can I feel better about how I look?” or “What can I do to get in better shape?” Concerning your family life, ask “How can I spend more time with my loved ones?” or “What can I do to feel closer to my siblings?”
Instead of asking “How can I free myself from money struggles?”, ask “Where can additional income come from?” or “How can I save more on a daily basis?” Instead of asking “How can I make my relationship better?”, ask “Why does my spouse get upset with me, when I do x,y, or z?”
Ask “What can I do to be a better public speaker?” instead of “Why can’t I overcome my fear of public speaking?” Ask “How can I be more sociable?” instead of “Why can’t I make more friends?”
You may draw the hanged man when you want to know how you can help a situation. On the surface, this looks like powerlessness, but it can be about acceptance. You could draw the hermit when you ask about how you can bring more excitement into your love life. Instead of saying you’re destined to be alone, it could be saying you need to reflect inwards before you can find a fulfilling love life. [4] X Research source
If a card indicates you need to embrace your feminine side, remember that and ask “How can I better embrace my femininity?” If a card says your expectations are too high, like the four of cups, remember that and ask “How can I be more realistic?"[6] X Research source
