After you get out of the shower, put some deodorant on. Make sure to use plenty, and rub it in pretty firm. You don’t want to have sweat stains when you go talk to an older girl. You can even add some lotion to your hands to make them soft. If your hands are rough, the girl might not want you to touch her.
The shaved look is much easier to maintain. Remember to shave using a razor and shaving cream every morning. Some girls like a little stubble, but you shouldn’t grow it past that point. Older girls love a clean shaven man. Don’t forget as well to trim elsewhere, besides your face. Take some of that overgrown chest hair off, and maintain the hair between your legs. This shows older girls that you care about your appearance and how you present yourself.
Keep breath mints or chewing gum around in case you haven’t brushed your teeth in a while. This will at least mask the smell, and make your breath minty fresh.
Remember to get a haircut on a monthly basis. Hair running down your neck and over your ears needs to be trimmed back.
Make sure all of your clothes are ironed. This shows the older girls that you care about the way you appear to the outside world, and that you care about yourself. You do not want to look as if you just rolled out of bed. Variations on appropriate attire are natural when it comes to individuals. There is no “perfect” wardrobe. Use your best judgement, and try your best. It never hurts to go out and pick up some new shirts/pants at a nearby store if you don’t have much in your closet.
Keep the conversation going. Always have something in the back of your mind to say when she is done speaking. You don’t want any awkward silences.
If her arms are crossed, or her eyes are looking away while you are talking to her, she may not be that into you. Make sure that your body is squared up with her when you talk. You want to show that your focus isn’t elsewhere.
For example, a good way to ask her out is: “Hey [insert name], I was thinking about going to dinner Friday night and wanted to know if you would like to come with?”
Do not go out to places like movie theaters until at least your second date. For a first date you aren’t looking at each other, and there isn’t a chance to talk to one another. When it comes to later dates, movies can be fun experiences and give you guys something to talk about. Bring her some flowers right when you walk up to her at the door. It’s a great kick-starter, and will start your date out tremendously.
A first kiss good night should only last about 5-6 seconds. You do not want to make the situation awkward, or make her feel as if you want more. Do not simply peck her on the lips or cheek. Use a little bit of tongue and show that you feel something for her. She will want more, and will be more open to dates in the future.
Remember that older girls are mature, and will want to practice safe sex. Always have a condom ready in case the moment is right. Open, honest relationships are built on a good sex life. If you can’t be happy here, the relationship probably isn’t going anywhere. Spend time before and after sex teasing and cuddling. This gets the other partner in the mood, and shows you that you are mature.
