While some of them might be feeling as miserable as you, some of them are probably having a wonderful time snickering at the pointlessness of Valentine’s Day or not even bothering to give it any notice. And then there are many couples who resist Valentine’s Day as much as possible, despairing of the pressure to conform to purchasing gifts and celebrating the occasion like clockwork and who find the commercialization of Valentine’s Day crass even though they’re in love. With this perspective in mind, it can be a little easier to stop sniffling into your handkerchief. Remind yourself that the benefits of Valentine’s Day are realized in the cashier’s till of the florist, candy retailers, gift stores and restaurants catering for romantic dinners for two.
Write a list of all the good points about being single. For example, free time, no compromises on the home front, less responsibilities, etc. And think about how some of those good points would evaporate within a relationship. Focus on the benefits rather than seeing drawbacks. If people choose to rub your “singleness” in your face on Valentine’s Day, be strong and reply with compassion: “I like being single. I get to choose how I want to live without having to make compromises, meals, or even the bed. " And you might wish to mention that statistics reveal that half the community is single, with 51 percent of women, for example, living without a spouse. [1] X Research source
Remember what can happen to those who rush love and marry before knowing themselves. This can end in one partner realizing some day that they need to “find themselves” and the relationship suffers for it. Diapers are not romantic. Endless nights without sleep are not romantic. Don’t rush before you’re absolutely ready to commit; enjoy this single time, now or for as long as you intend it to last.
Do something decadent like attend a day spa all day long or go for a sightseeing flight over your city. Take along some friends if doing this alone feels weird. Not too decadent. Set your troubles aside for a day, but don’t make them worse. You’ll enjoy yourself more now as well as in the future if you know you won’t worry more about how to reduce expenses because you spent too much on an indulgence like a huge box of boutique chocolates, or how to lose weight fast because they were too good to stop eating.
