How about seeing lazy as meaning that your mind and body want to rest? Many people would be far less stressed and a lot happier and attuned to their own real body pace if they gave in to heeding the body’s and mind’s cry for a “bit of lazy” now and then. Lazy means you’re probably getting a bit tired of something that is mundane and routine. And who said we have to love the mundane and routine of life? Sure, we can be grateful for all we have and for those around us, but this doesn’t need to extend to being grateful for dull routine! Lazy can mean you’ve got an internal struggle going on about what you think you should be doing and what you’d rather be doing. It’s possible that those “shoulds” are visited on you by external pressures. Lazy can mean that someone else is not doing what you want them to or vice versa. It’s not necessarily lazy then; it could be tied up in control issues (manipulating people into doing things) or in an inability to communicate clearly, and calling the behavior lazy is an easy excuse. Lazy means you’ve got something truly relaxing in mind. Like nothing, totally nothing at all, including leaving that unwashed pile of dishes. . . unwashed. Is that so bad when it’s an irregular, spontaneous occurrence? What about the benefits like renewed vigor and a sense of well-being?
We drive cars instead of walking because we’re too lazy to walk. We use washing machines to wash our clothes because we’re too lazy to be putting in that scrubbing effort. We use computers because we’re too lazy to write it all out by hand (and besides which, typing is faster, so it’s done sooner, so we can relax faster). The good side to laziness is that there isn’t anything wrong with working out better ways to do things with less stress, less energy, and less time involved. Yet it is important to acknowledge the traditional challenges you’re likely to feel about embracing the positives of being lazy now and then.
And while a rested worker is actually a more productive and happy one, ironically many people work longer hours than they need to because the focus is on being seen to be busy rather than on being productive in a shorter space of time. Ultimately, a society that encourages work-life balance and a sense of knowing when enough is enough is likely to be more, not less, productive.
For many, that extra time away from work is spent doing other things they enjoy and is a recognition that all work and no play makes for a dull population. Maybe diligence could learn a little from sloth, in that allowing the mind and body rest ensures renewed strength and inspiration. Laziness is nuanced, just as diligence is — neither is wholly good nor bad and each has their place in moderation. Insisting that one is good and one is evil is too simplistic and denies your opportunity to give in to moments of sheer restfulness.
On the other hand, if you define “productivity” as a means of making the most of what you do do, as a way of making the most of the time you do set aside for working (or for doing anything), and about being as effective as you can possibly be within the parameters of the time and energy you have allotted, then doing less or being lazy is actually the best way to be productive. Consider: you can work all day in a flurry of frenetic activity, only to achieve very little, especially when it’s assessed in terms of a lasting achievement. Or, you can do just a few things in each hour but make them key actions that result in real achievement. In the second example, you did less, but the time you spent counted for more. At this point, take a long hard look at your work method and be honest as to whether or not half of what you do is about “looking busy” rather than “being productive”.
If you’ve already wrapped up a project at work and are just sitting around to look good, either ask for something productive to do or go home. Sitting at your desk checking email and trying to look busy isn’t doing you or anyone in the office any favors. Let’s say you’re trying to write a novel. You may have written some really good stuff for your first two hours in front of the computer, but you now find yourself drawing a blank. If you find that you just don’t really have the strength or motivation to keep going right now, stop staring at the screen and give yourself some time off before picking the work up again the next day.
Spending time with people and giving them your full attention will improve your relationships, make you happier, and will give you time to decompress from all the work that you do. Don’t feel disappointed in yourself for giving in to just having some fun; it’s good for you!
If you find that obsessively planning is stressing you out, then it’s time to learn to be okay with having a few unknowns in your schedule. This can help you relax a bit and yes, it can even make it okay to be a bit lazy! Plus, if you don’t plan everything down to the minute, you can end up having some unexpected spontaneous fun, which can help you relax and get ready for any work you have ahead of you.
Send fewer emails but make the ones you do send more important. As an added benefit to doing this, people will take notice when you do send them and treat them with more import than if you’re always sending emails to a) cover your back and b) prove you’re working. Stamp this message to your forehead (okay, just write it on a Post-It note and put it somewhere obvious): Laziness does not mean that less is more; laziness means that less is better.
Bring a friend, some reading material, a snack, or just something else that will help you relax. Don’t bring anything you have to do for work or try to multi-task. Just be content with not doing very much.
Invite the pets and the kids to loll about with you; first, pets are naturals at being lazy at all the right times, and second, you can never teach kids too young that chilling is an important part of being whole and healthy. Call up a few old friends and see how they’re doing. If being in bed all day is making you too lethargic, you can take a walk to get some fresh air. However, don’t do too much more than that.
If you plan to take just one or two big grocery shopping trips per month, for example, then this will save you a lot of time and will give you more time to just be lazy. You can even ask other members of your family to do some shopping for you, or do it online.
Look at your “to do” list and ask how many of the things on the list really need to get done. Do a few things, but don’t stress out over it or let it take up all of your free time.
Ask yourself if you’ve signed up for too many activities, volunteered to help out too many friends, said you would cook too many complicated meals, or just have spread yourself so thin that there’s no time for laziness. Look at what you can cut back to open up more time to just relax and do nothing.
For those in management positions, trust that your staff, child, or volunteer is capable and don’t over-manage or over-parent them. Doing less managing gives employees, children, or volunteers the freedom, the chance to explore their creativity, the room to learn on their own, and the space to succeed and fail. The less you do, the more others figure out how to do things. You can guide and teach but don’t interfere. It’s best to share the cleaning, cooking, organizing, and garbage removal duties. Most people usually find them inherently tiresome, so share them for a sense of togetherness at least and prompt progress to something more enjoyable. It is quite possible that household duties are the original source of the wrath against laziness! Delegate and trust your delegation. Many hands make light work, for everyone. Give everyone the chance to go home earlier by sharing the burden as a team or group, whether it’s work, the local church gala, or a big wiki meet-up.
We’re living in a world where many don’t know or don’t want to know where to place limits on communicating anymore, so much so that if feels like a chore, an obligation, and if we don’t keep it up, we feel bizarre guilt or even as if we’re slighting people by withdrawing. Yet so much of this talk is nothing but jabbering at each other, with very little listening. It is noise. Let silence into your life. Let stillness pervade your mind. Let yourself be lazy about your online, social media, and texting “obligations”. Make every email count. Only instant message when it’s necessary. Spend less time on the phone, on Twitter, on the Blackberry, Android, and iPhone, and more time with. . . humans, with yourself, your favorite book, and in the present.
Learn to write really good first drafts quickly. It can be done with practice. Fold your clothes after removing them from the dryer or taking them off the line. They’re ready to be put away immediately and they’ll crease far less than if they’re left to sit in the dryer or clothes basket for days on end. Paint the house right the first time. If you don’t, you’ll spend many hours fixing the botch job. Most renovation and building jobs have exactly the same principle underlying them; do it right to begin with and you’ll have far less maintenance and fixing work later. Read your emails and then act on them as they arrive. When you leave them sitting around “to deal with later”, invariably it turns into a Herculean task you don’t want to face, you then resent, and you then feel mired in. If they’re not worth your attention at all, delete them immediately; for those that can be replied to immediately, do so. Try to keep the emails you sit on down to a minimum of 5 percent of your in-box, and have a very good reason for doing so (such as finding out a correct answer, or sleeping on an angry response). Buy your seasonal or celebratory gifts well in advance of the day before. You’ll be less rushed and you won’t feel hassled; the lazy person has time to avoid rushes.
Everyone moans and criticizes now and then. Just don’t let it be a habit and get used to catching yourself at it and reminding yourself of all the energy it’s wasting and how you could be more productively using that time to relax and move on from whatever has bothered you. If you have a big reason for complaining, then you could be spending time doing something constructive rather than moaning, like writing a letter to your local representative or spray-painting your huge protest sign for a sit-in on a comfortable cushion. Cultivate compassion, acceptance, love and understanding. They are the antidote to complaining. Stop catastrophizing. It may never happen and even if it does, will your worrying make it any better? Perhaps it’s just that you like being proven right so that you can shake your finger and say “I told you so” but there are better ways of dealing with the future than worrying and fussing about it. Learn to go with the flow, look for opportunities, find the natural path of things, and do what is needed in the moment. You can’t control outcomes, but if you learn to work fluidly and have constructively readied yourself for events (such as putting your emergency kit into place), then you can modify the impact of the outcome’s impact on you.
Go with the flow. Just let things happen. Step back and let things happen without you. Don’t force things. Be like the water that finds the path of least resistance and smooths the way as it flows. Find life’s pressure points and push those instead of pushing brick walls. Find where things give with the least amount of pressure. This takes smarts, not evasion of responsibility.
Before putting your feet up, take off your shoes and socks. If feels good, especially when you have had a hard day or week at school or work. Laziness loves company. If you have a good friend who also wants to do nothing more than to sit around with his or her feet up, invite him or her over and you two can be lazy together. You can listen to your favorite music, pet your pet, eat, or do whatever it is you want to do while just sitting there.
