Classmates may try to tease you about quirky clothing or unusual hobbies you like. Don’t let it get to you! If you learn to be confident in the things you like, it’s much harder to tease you about them.
Accept responsibility when things go wrong. If you failed an exam, don’t blame your teacher. Sure, maybe they could have done some things better. But what actions could you have taken to get a better result? Try not to focus on things seem fair. Life isn’t always fair. Try to stay positive!
Are you prone to loud outbursts? Do you publicly embarrass other people? Try to recognize ways in which you may be unintentionally annoying others.
Reflect on what tends to make you angry. Maybe it’s a certain classmate with annoying habits. Try to think of a way to handle the situation without getting angry.
Even if you don’t find something funny, focus on not letting it upset you. People forget embarrassing incidents much faster than you’d think. Don’t worry about something haunting you forever. It’s unlikely to shape how people think of you if you don’t let it bother you.
Imagine a friend tells you a poem you wrote is a little too intense. It’s supposed to be intense, you might think. It’s upsetting that she’s not appreciating something you worked hard on. But take a step back. Try to understand where she’s coming from. Ask for more details. [6] X Research source Being mature is something that is internal, not external. If you’re having an issue, don’t be afraid to reach out for help. [7] X Expert Source César de León, M. Ed. Educational Leadership Consultant Expert Interview. 11 November 2020.
It’s hard to pick a fight with someone who doesn’t want to fight. When someone gets upset with you, do your best not to get upset as well. Communicate with them instead, and try to come up with a resolution.
Even when you or the other person is truly upset, it doesn’t have to be a hostile conversation. Calmly and clearly express why you’re upset, then hear the other person out. You’ll be amazed at the results. See this as an opportunity to work on your conflict resolution skills.
